Movie Review: Rabbit Hole

I watched this movie while Amit and the kids were in Calcutta. I had made up my mind to watch a movie, any movie, while on my mini-break and this seemed the best of the lot. However, it sounded rather depressing. It was supposed to be about a couple who had just lost their four-year-old in an accident. Not the best thing for a mom of two four-year-olds to dwell on, you’d think.

But it was a superb movie. It didn’t dwell on the death of the child so much; it was all about how the two parents were grieving in their different ways. The mom stoically practical, moving on, trying to bury or deny her grief; the dad almost relishing it, relinquishing himself to it, holding on to the past, almost as though letting go of it would belittle his love for his son or his grief over his son’s death. Both partners find it difficult to understand the other’s way of handling their grief. The dad does try to reach out to the mom, but he also seems to resent her hard, level-headed practicality, and her need to move on. She can’t handle his hanging on style of grieving. The movie is beautifully done – you can understand each person’s pain, see each person struggling to deal with it, and identify in some part with both of them. You can see just how difficult it would be for them to bridge the gap. And how easy it would be to turn to someone else for solace. Yet, the movie doesn’t go down that path – it doesn’t become yet another tale of an extra-marital affair. It also doesn’t commit that other crime against reality – the crime of showing a really superficial happy ending. The ending, as much as the middle, is true to life. It’s not a happy ending, so much as it is a small tiny step towards what might be a happy beginning, or maybe a happy resuming. I haven’t seen a movie so delicately, so sensitively done in a long time. Of course, I haven’t seen too many movies in the last so many years, so that may not be saying much, but it really was a brilliant movie.

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4 Responses to Movie Review: Rabbit Hole

  1. doug H says:

    Sounds like a well crafted, if somewhat depressing, movie.
    At least it’s not another remake of “Alice in Wonderland”, which is what I’d assumed from the title.

  2. Anonymous says:

    If P and the kids ever go out of town for a week, I will watch one movie a day. At the very least. 🙂
    I must confess that I hadn’t even heard if this one.

  3. poupee97 says:

    DOug: I thought it sounded somewhat depressing too, especially with two girls of the same age myself! But it wasn’t depressing. It was really interesting.

    Anon (Supriya?) – That’s a big “if”! Wish you luck with that. 🙂

  4. Supriya says:

    Yes, Anon was me again. And, that very big IF is never going to happen, even though they do say, never say never.

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